Historically on this forum I was the first one trying to use some kind of "rule" you suggest. We were numerous during it, but not constantly. And each time enemy had an ability to bring more people (much more) than we have, they did it. My suggestion was not answered during couple or more months, during that, people were standardly offensive, blaming the swarm and its participants when they lose, using the number as the first argument in case then it should be used and when it's not.
It gave me the idea, that those who calls us a swarm never cared about such called "balance", but just wanted to win by any mean, and the "swarm" argument is just an element of information war.
Those people are currently in the first numbers of the lawyers, the second only active group on the server. They ganged up against v-tec in many different ways and forms, making many of us consider them not just an fellow game opponents, but people we really hate. Such relation might not pass you completely, if you play in the same team with them.
And as there are only 2 active groups of the server, and the v-tec is one of them, we don't care about the 2 group, which for you might mean "death of the server", but for us mean just a win in a personal war and ability to play the game normally - without the bile and hate. Our post-war organization is separate question which as a group of normally communicating people we can easily solve.
In that light, I will answer you questions:
> the entirety of the server will be a vtec circlejerk?
If by vtec circlejerk you mean adequate people who is able to normally communicate, then yes. I see nothing bad in it. Show me how is it bad, please.
Also as I referenced, groups without hatred unwanted players like Tenova's BBoys are our fellow opponents we respect and trying to communicate with.
> Your idea of fun is domination and humiliation?
When I play against stalker, yes. I get a lot of joy from it. I enjoy making him angry. Don't see how is it a problem in whole as well, if you consider his personality.
> I don't get why Vtecs take this game so seriously.
I don't see why is it v-tec take game seriously, when you think that not more 2 than enemy should be a rule (: I'm afraid It's some kind of the phrase you hide behind to show you frustration of being swarmed. The case you reference now as far as I remember we went family gate with 5, when on the timer was 4 people on. We might have 6, I don't remember for sure. "Using SPA" is a bad argument, just as "using ripper" or "using gatling". In whole, sorry for that, the only thing I can suggest as I said is to avoid company of the well known shitters.
Sorry, I can't work things out when there're people like Stalker in your team.